My partner recently told me that the biggest thing that attracted him to me was my motivation. It’s not the first time someone has commented on my tendency to be working towards multiple goals at one time, and at ALL times… but each time I hear it, all I can say is “well if you truly want something, you will make it happen wouldn’t you?” – because why wouldn’t you???
This has not always been my philosophy. I grew up in a family where moral support was definitely not to be expected. Where I gave up on my ideas and ambitions before I had even started, as I was usually told it was a stupid idea, or that there were better things I could be doing with my time (like staying in the kitchen and being a ‘good woman’….oh the chauvinism).
The turning point
Once I reached a point where I had had enough of living the life I though I ‘ought’ to live, and still never being ‘good enough’, I decided to just do whatever the fuck made me happy, and anyone in my way could just get burned up in the fire that had been lit in my belly… or whatever it is that naysayers do
It was the feeling I had at this point in my life which drives me. That sinking feeling when I realised that the life I had was never the one I wanted, and I had no one to blame but myself. I had reached the point where I didn’t even know what I even wanted anymore. So I followed my gut, I tried everything that even remotely took my fancy, and if it didn’t work out, I picked myself up and kept on moving.
These days I get up at 4.30am for my morning strength session, I have a fulltime office job, and I spend most of my nights and weekends finishing my degree part time (6 years down, 1 to go) . Somewhere in that week I find time to cook healthy meals, sing, play guitar, model, read about anything and everything, spend time with my loved ones, and now write this blog.
Just do it, then do it some more
Dream big, and aim for the stars, because if that’s not where you’re aiming, how the hell do you expect to get there? In the meantime, celebrate the small achievements, they are fuel for the fire. If you get the speed wobbles and fall off, get up, get focused, and get back on that horse.
I have found that the more you have to do, the more time I seem to have to do it – strange but true. There is a saying that rings soo incredibly true to me, “if you want something done, ask a busy person to do it” – Lucille Bell
And if you don’t believe me, ask this guy…
“Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen” – Michael Jordan
Be the one making it happening…